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Chapter 24: Underneath the Veil; the Vital Breath of Anger

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"Listening causes me to find the existence of truth behind the veil." - Loreena McKennitt It was Saturday afternoon during our 30 minute lunch break and I only had a few minutes left to call my group leader James that I wouldn't be able to come in on Monday evening. Volunteering or "assisting" as they like to call it, for the Landmark Power to Create course was not my idea. But Jules suggested this would be the best way to attend and listen in on the course without paying for the registration fee. At this point in time I was driving for Lyft and freelancing on the side and struggling mightily to keep up with my bills. So the reasoning made sense to me. What I hadn't anticipated was that assisting would mean arriving two hours before the course began at 9am to help set up and also staying behind an hour past 11pm to help clean up and prepare for the next day. My back was killing me and I was physically exhausted. The last thing I wanted to do after working 16...

Chapter 6: Gaydar, Gender Performance, Toxic Masculinity vs. Divine Masculinity

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"The union of feminine and masculine energies within the individual is the basis of all creation" - Shakti Gawain When I was an undergrad at UC Irvine, I made the subject of my Sociology Majors Seminar paper on "gaydar" and gender stereotypes. For those unfamiliar with the term, gaydar is the intuitive ability to assess a person's sexual orientation as gay, bi, or straight. The premise of my paper was that our gaydar was calibrated by our proximity to the LGBTQ community; do you have any gay friends or know any openly gay people? I surveyed a few dozen of my Bible Study high school students and college peers and many of them didn't know any gay people; their gaydars were solely based on gender cues.  How do you tell if someone is gay? If they cross their legs when they sit. How skinny their jeans are (this was in the mid 2000's so we were transitioning from the baggy jeans to skinny jeans era). If they carry their books in front of their chests instead ...